The arguments outlined here are not directed at love in its purest form but the manifestation of love in society. They are rightly directed at marriage and dating culture, which are institutions of love but do not deal with what love is.
Love by definition is not a tool of the patriarchy. Nor is it inherently oppressive. A unionists view of love may fall into this trap but many of the other definitions of love explored in this debate do not oppress female participants.